Authenticity/brutal honesty. In the “real world”, we have to put on these masks – professionalism, politeness, political correctness. A previous version of me might say “all these masks are phoniness and we. MUST. DESTROY.” Today, I realize we need these masks. You don’t want or need a pilot to be brutally honest with you – you want them to land the plane safely. These social masks, used properly, are healthy and necessary.
They can also get annoying and a major barrier to getting our ~need~ for authenticity met. And it feels amazing to take them off after a long day. Enter friends: those who will accept you as your unfiltered self and you, them. The conversations just flow because all the computing power that goes toward censoring and filtering just gets redirected to pure expression. This opens the door for a deeper connection, one that’s based less on material circumstances and more on love and soulful circumstances.
“Tell me how you really feel” is a phrase that gets thrown around a lot. I notice that it’s typically used when the masks are still on and people don’t actually want to know how you really feel. What I want and appreciate with friends is when they “tell me how they really feel”. Shoutout to all the homies.
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